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'Young Mom' is Not A Synonym for Bad Mom

Talking to another mom friend of mine a few days ago about other kinds of moms there are out there in the world really got me thinking about the kind of mom I am and the kind of mom I'd like to be. For me those two are different because it seems that I'm always striving to become something that I'm not. Something better than what I already am. A mom that just does more in general. And the moms that always achieve the balance between the kind of mom they are and the kind of mom they'd like to be are those super moms. We all know those moms. Those moms that are so close to perfection and defiantly want to tell all about it. I'll talk some more about those moms later but back to the kind of mom I am and want to be... The fact of the matter is, yes, I am a young mom. Let's just take a moment to take in how young, twenty. And I in fact, had my little one when I was just eighteen. The thing is, there's not many expectations of a mom that young in this day and age. Teenage pregnancies are common, yes, but still viewed as a complete joke. And honestly, I'm not the poster woman who wants to sweep in and change that for everyone, no, I simply just want the chance to become my own image. And if other young moms seem to follow, then what harm can that possibly do.
The moment I found out I was pregnant was the moment I became a mom to me. As is for a lot of women. But in my case, I purchased baby furniture in my first trimester. Not even kidding. I announced my pregnancy via Social Networking the same day I found out I was pregnant. That's how excited I was. And I know at the age of eighteen, fresh out of high school I should have had other ambitions and dreams but I wasn't like most teenagers I knew. I had wanted to be a mom and a wife since the time I was able to understand what a mom and wife even was. I have never felt as if I would excel as a career woman. Don't get me wrong, hats off to the women that are because I am in no way ever one to stomp on the advances of feminism. It's just not where I saw me going. What I'm trying to say is that I feel that I am right where I need to be. The trials and tribulations of motherhood and even of marriage are the hardest I've been through yet, yes, but in a way they're also my most favorite life lessons I've learned in my twenty years. And I am a person who has gathered much more life experience than their age warrants.
I think that I can easily relate to anything a mother at the age of thirty goes through. And the fact of the matter is that I also know a lot of thirty year olds that have been far less accomplished or put together as I feel I am today. And in reality I believe that is fine. Life happens and sometimes it's all a matter of perspective. Fortunately I was raised not to "half-ass" anything. As a result I tend to shun the "half-ass" moms who come in all ages from all over the world. And I aspire to be like the mothers who give everything they have and then some more.
Just because you're a young mom doesn't mean you have to be a "bad" mom.

A Lil Somein-Somein About Jess

For my first blog post I'm going to do an in depth tell all about myself. First there's the basics and the most obvious, which is that I am a young mother of one little girl. She is currently seventeen months old as I write this. I am also a wife to an Airman and we are a fairly new military family, he has just past his one year mark. I am currently twenty and motherhood to me, is the most important aspect of my life. It is definitely at the top of my priorities and later on I of course will get into why I feel like not all young mothers should be portrayed as "bad" or naive mothers, but for now I'm going to continue to divulge the details about me. I would say I feed off of positivity and I don't very much like or sympathize with negative people. I like to keep a clean and healthy lifestyle but I also leave room for messes and breaks. I feel like it is important to be passionate, it is important to be kind, and it is important to be a good listener and an honest responder. I'm the type of person who can find beauty in almost anything. I like to think I have an open and creative mind. I try to keep extremely organized and technology is my partner in crime for that. I love embracing my girlishness through doing my makeup, fixing my hair, and painting my nails, as well as setting up at home DIY spa treatments on a regular basis. I think that looking good shows self love and in turn you will feel good as well. I'd call myself artistic, as a matter of fact, it's a strength of mine rather than a talent. I've always been a very hands on person and I find I connect with anything that inspires creative thinking and doing. For example, I love to paint, sketch portraits, crochet, write poetry, cook, and daydream. I have a knack for photography both in front of and some behind the lens (mostly only of my daughter though) and even more of a knack for interior decorating. I enjoy being impulsive and wild, which some may find to be flaws but I find it to be very freeing and gratifying. I love all kinds of music and I love comedies and war movies but I'm not much for sappy romantic movies. I never stop reading, I literally never have a break in between books and most of the time I read multiple books at once. I think reading is important to expanding your mind and it helps you grow.

I hope that if anyone happens to stumble upon my blog that they find they can easily relate and they feel inspired to share their own life experiences with me or with the rest of the world. I can only wish for the best, for kindness from others and for the chance to be able to return the favor. I love to learn new things from all kinds of people and I feel that everyone in the world is of equal importance.