'Young Mom' is Not A Synonym for Bad Mom

Talking to another mom friend of mine a few days ago about other kinds of moms there are out there in the world really got me thinking about the kind of mom I am and the kind of mom I'd like to be. For me those two are different because it seems that I'm always striving to become something that I'm not. Something better than what I already am. A mom that just does more in general. And the moms that always achieve the balance between the kind of mom they are and the kind of mom they'd like to be are those super moms. We all know those moms. Those moms that are so close to perfection and defiantly want to tell all about it. I'll talk some more about those moms later but back to the kind of mom I am and want to be... The fact of the matter is, yes, I am a young mom. Let's just take a moment to take in how young, twenty. And I in fact, had my little one when I was just eighteen. The thing is, there's not many expectations of a mom that young in this day and age. Teenage pregnancies are common, yes, but still viewed as a complete joke. And honestly, I'm not the poster woman who wants to sweep in and change that for everyone, no, I simply just want the chance to become my own image. And if other young moms seem to follow, then what harm can that possibly do.
The moment I found out I was pregnant was the moment I became a mom to me. As is for a lot of women. But in my case, I purchased baby furniture in my first trimester. Not even kidding. I announced my pregnancy via Social Networking the same day I found out I was pregnant. That's how excited I was. And I know at the age of eighteen, fresh out of high school I should have had other ambitions and dreams but I wasn't like most teenagers I knew. I had wanted to be a mom and a wife since the time I was able to understand what a mom and wife even was. I have never felt as if I would excel as a career woman. Don't get me wrong, hats off to the women that are because I am in no way ever one to stomp on the advances of feminism. It's just not where I saw me going. What I'm trying to say is that I feel that I am right where I need to be. The trials and tribulations of motherhood and even of marriage are the hardest I've been through yet, yes, but in a way they're also my most favorite life lessons I've learned in my twenty years. And I am a person who has gathered much more life experience than their age warrants.
I think that I can easily relate to anything a mother at the age of thirty goes through. And the fact of the matter is that I also know a lot of thirty year olds that have been far less accomplished or put together as I feel I am today. And in reality I believe that is fine. Life happens and sometimes it's all a matter of perspective. Fortunately I was raised not to "half-ass" anything. As a result I tend to shun the "half-ass" moms who come in all ages from all over the world. And I aspire to be like the mothers who give everything they have and then some more.
Just because you're a young mom doesn't mean you have to be a "bad" mom.